Here is something form my wife:
Aware parenting consists of:
1. Attachment style parenting: Lots of physical contact, prompt responsiveness to crying, sensitive attunement. For birth parents: natural childbirth and extended breast feeding.
2. Non-punitive discipline: No spanking or artificial consequences. Using natural consequences. Anger management for parents and peaceful conflict/resolutions
3. Prevention and healing from stress and trauma: recognition of the healing effects of play, laughter, and crying in the context of a loving parent/child relationship. Respectful acceptance of the child’s emotions
What is love and logic?
1. Shared control: Gain control by giving away the control you don’t need.
2. Shared thinking and decision making: Provide opportunities for the child to do the greatest amount of thinking and decision making.
3. Equal shares of empathy and consequences: an absence of anger causes a child to think and learn from his/her mistakes.
4. Maintain the child’s self concept: increased self concept leads to improved behavior and improved achievement
Policies against corporal punishment adopted by the United Methodist Church
“Whereas, corporal punishment models aggressive behavior as a solution to conflict, whereas, some research has associated corporal punishment with increased aggression in children and adults, increased substance abuse, increased risk of crime and violence, low self esteem, and chronic depression,
Whereas, it is difficult to imagine Jesus of Nazareth condoning any action intended to hurt children physically or psychologically,
Whereas, time outs and deprivation of privileges are as effective as corporal punishment in stopping undesirable behavior,
Whereas, the effectiveness of corporal punishment decreases with subsequent use and therefore leads caretakers to hit children more severely,
Whereas, children must eventually develop their own conscious and self discipline, which are fostered by a home environment of love, respect and trust,
Therefore, be it resolved that the United Methodist Church encourages its members to adopt discipline methods that do not include corporal punishment of their children. And be it further resolved that the United Methodist Church encourages congregations to offer opportunities for dialogue and education on effective discipline of children.